Are you passing through a phase of Soul Sensitivity?

“Soul Sensitivity” is how I describe the second of the six stages of Soul Evolution. Soon after passing through the first stage of “Soul Awakening” [a phase of powerful and significant spiritual change as we awaken to a new level of consciousness] we enter a phase in our soul evolution where we feel very sensitive. I call this Soul Sensitivity but it could also be called “Light Emerging”.

It is a pivotal stage of our soul evolution; and often we feel extremely sensitive and vulnerable as we pass through this phase. Some people find it quite a challenging time but there are ways to help you cope more easily, especially if you are aware of what is happening.

It is very possible to over-react at this time. And problems and challenges, however small or insignificant, are likely to seem greatly magnified. You may feel very vulnerable, overwhelmed and emotionally raw. You could feel fragile and fragmented. You also might be unusually short tempered and intolerant with a tendency to take things too personally and too seriously! So strategies such as humour, compassion and acceptance can all help.

Even the slightest difficulty is perceived as a huge and insurmountable issue. It is advisable to avoid making snap decisions when in this phase, especially in connection with anything important or long term. Try to wait until you feel able to give a rational and thoughtful response rather than an emotional reaction. Take a step back and try to gain a sense of proportion. Give yourself a chance to re-group your energies.

Soul sensitivity is not all bad news, but it is a phase where you need to consciously and carefully “manage” your subtle energy system.

We can respond differently each time we pass through this phase and it is useful to learn to recognise what is happening and how to handle it. Here are some of my favourite analogies to describe “Soul Sensitivity”.

Imagine that magical moment when the newly transformed butterfly emerges from chrysalis. It is utterly exquisite but initially also very fragile and vulnerable. It needs time to get to know its new form and this new physical form has to adjust to the physical world. You could view your newly emerging light body, or soul energy, in a similar way. It is also worth noting that a newly metamorphosed butterfly needs to go through the strenuous and challenging process of breaking out of its chrysalis. And it needs to emerge in its own time. Giving it a supposedly ‘helpful tug’ to set it free and ‘help’ it on its way, will in fact most likely damage it! So please bear this in mind if you are ever tempted to accelerate your own [or someone else’s] soul sensitivity / emerging process!

During this phase, we may feel like a precious plant which has newly germinated and broken through its tough seed shell coating. As the tiny rootlets and shoots emerge through the seed shell they are extremely fragile and need just the right balance of nourishment and support. So you might find you need to be handled very gently and carefully at this stage – just like a new seedling!

Sometimes, it is a lot less dramatic. It is more like leaving a darkened room and stepping out into very bright sunlight. We simply need a period of adjustment and acclimatisation [or to put on the spiritual equivalent of sunglasses].

We all react differently to this phase – we can become ultra-sensitive and as a result a bit tetchy and grumpy!! Or very emotional with a tendency to over-react. We might just feel super sensitive, as if a layer of skin has been sloughed off and so we feel very vulnerable. Also we may feel fragmented and find it hard to concentrate.

Although Soul sensitivity can create certain challenges, until you can acclimatise to your new more light-filled state of being; it is a phase which can be managed quite simply and effectively.

I recommend you make an extra effort to ensure you are well grounded. Spend time doing physical mundane activities, ideally outdoors. Gardening, walking, sporting activities are all good. Also household chores such as washing up and cleaning the floors can help! In addition to exercise, make sure you eat well and get lots of rest.

Also be discerning about where you spend your time and who with. Allow extra time to do things; reduce stress and pressure as much as possible. Try to create a calm and peaceful atmosphere around you.

When passing through a Soul Sensitivity phase you may feel impressed to cleanse your home or meditation space – we can be super sensitive to dust, dirt and any heavier moving frequencies. This is the ideal time to start a healthier regime [perhaps reduce the amount of sugar, caffeine, alcohol you intake] treat your body gently and kindly.

Also, do something nice for yourself [perhaps book a massage or other treat] or at least allow extra time to read a book, soak in the bath or go to the cinema. This is a time where your self-care has to take top priority.

When we are newly infused with high doses of spiritual energy we need to find ways to strengthen the physical vessel [our bodies] to contain that energy and ultimately integrate it. Our spiritual task is to allow spirit to come into matter, to allow light to come to earth. So if we are to serve as light keepers on the planet, we need to learn to hold light whilst in earthly form and thereby be of earthy use in service to the Light.

NB: One of the courses I run: “Sacred Journey of the Soul” includes an in depth exploration of the Six Stages of Soul Evolution from Soul Awakening to Soul Radiance. Soul Sensitivity is the second stage of Soul Evolution.

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SOUL AWAKENING – a powerful phase in our Soul Evolution

“Soul Awakening” is the term I use to describe the first of the six stages of Soul Evolution – it is a phase of powerful and significant spiritual change. It is at that point in life when you receive a “wake up call” from your higher self or soul and you are being asked to allow a more spiritual dimension to enter your life. It seems many people are currently receiving such “wake up calls” so I thought I’d share a few thoughts about this phase in our soul evolution with you.

Although Soul Awakening is the first stage in the soul evolution cycle – even very experienced spiritual practitioners have to pass through this phase each and every time they begin to access new and more profound levels of consciousness or start a new phase of soul growth.

The soul evolution cycle is constantly repeating and is like a myriad of spirals [rather than circles]. Also the soul evolution cycles repeat within themselves. There are spirals within spirals! So rather confusingly, you can be at a “Soul Awakening” phase at one level and at another level you may be at the Soul Gateway stage. And you may spend your whole incarnation principally focussing on just one soul evolution phase, although during that lifetime, you will continuously be passing through the other stages at other levels. I said it was confusing!!

There are various “symptoms” or “signs” of Soul Awakening, I wonder if you have experienced any of these of late? They can include feeling under immense pressure [in the same way that intense pressure and heat is needed to form a diamond in the depths of the earth – our Soul goes through a similar process when awakening to a new level of consciousness]. Sometimes we could think of having a cosmic soul seed at the core of our beings – and in order for the seed to cosmically “germinate” and the seed shell to open, certain conditions have to prevail [these “conditions” can take the form of various life challenges which seem to create the right degree of cosmic fuel to help bring about a spiritual metamorphosis].

For our light to shine out, we sometimes need “help” to open the portals of our soul; and that “help” can occur in the form of a series of life events, which might seem challenging in the extreme – they can literally feel heart breaking as the cosmic shell is opened.

But Soul Awakening is not necessarily a painful or difficult process. Think of it as the Universe trying to get our attention and once we acknowledge these “wake up calls” or “prompts”, it can be a profoundly meaningful and even joyful time [although not necessarily easy and comfortable]. It is a process that becomes easier over time. Once we have consciously passed through the Soul Awakening phase several times in one lifetime, we begin to recognise the patterns and know how to manage it – and pass through it more rapidly, with greater ease. Look back over your own spiritual journey that has brought you to this point and see if you can resonate with this pattern in any way and recognise the various points in your life when you were passing through this Soul Awakening phase.

Usually the most helpful way to manage this phase is to accept that you are being offered access to a new level of consciousness and then become willingly open to it. How to do this effectively? I recommend regular daily meditation + perhaps some form of spiritual study + extra efforts to keep yourself grounded and support your physical being.

Once we can acknowledge that what is happening in our life is actually occurring in order to serve our higher self, then interestingly the life challenges often seem to diminish because they have served their purpose – they have got our attention!

Finally, if you feel you are passing through a Soul Awakening phase in your life, please know that this is an immensely powerful, positive and important time in your life – I wish you many blessings of light as you take this next precious step on your sacred journey.

NB: One of the courses I run: “Sacred Journey of the Soul” includes an in depth exploration of the Six Stages of Soul Evolution from Soul Awakening to Soul Radiance.

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EXPECTATIONS – the mind trap that is guaranteed to set you up for stress, frustration and disappointment

Not only does this mind trap lead us to feeling irritable and exhausted but it can cause stress and harm to those around us because we can become very demanding as we seek absolute control and perfection from everyone and everything around us!

Do you ever tend to place unrealistic expectations on yourself, your family or life in general? Do you allow yourself to accept the unrealistic expectations of others to affect how you live your life?

When our expectations are not met exactly as we want, we experience feelings of intense frustration. It can be a huge cause of stress because we use so much energy trying to make things unfold exactly as we want them. It is exhausting for us, as well as everyone else around us.

When we are caught in the grip of the expectations trap we can become very demanding. We are probably not aware of the effect we are having on others around us. Because our needs are so extreme, we control every detail, and we can end up pushing others away from us.

When we invest greatly in something or someone, then we tend to expect a far greater return. This is so often seen between parents and children. The parent is desperate for the child to live up to their expectations. Quite possibly these expectations have been passed down through the generations.

The child will almost certainly rebel in some way or the other. And if this pattern is not healed, they may, in time also pass on their expectations to their own children!

The same can be true of a creative project or anything which we have poured a lot of time and energy into. If the final result doesn’t match the vision we had at the outset or the response of others is not what we hoped, we can experience bitter disappointment.

Try to remember to enjoy the ‘process’ of creating rather than just focussing on the final outcome or result.

When we are trying to get our expectations met we can become very demanding. And if things don’t work out the way we want them to, sometimes we can get very truculent and almost childish. It is generally not a very endearing scenario.

Perfectionism often accompanies unrealistic expectations. We may find ourselves saying “it would be perfect if only ……“ and then we qualify the experience in some way. We will also often refer to situations using words such as “should”, “ought” and “must”.

Interestingly, on the rare occasions when an expectation is exactly met, fulfilled in every way; we may experience only a momentary sense of pleasure and satisfaction. Almost straightaway, we will start looking at what we want next and how it should be fulfilled.

When we place unrealistic or unnecessary expectations on ourselves or others, inevitably we will experience disappointment, frustration and even anger. It is so often better to set achievable and realistic goals. Once these are attained, we get more energy to motivate us to move forward.

However, this does NOT mean we should stop dreaming, nor should we restrict our ambitions and hopes. Far from it. The remedy is not to start “playing it safe”.

Have a vision of what you wish for but be flexible and open to other possibilities. Remember, our expectations can actually limit our options and restrict what can come into our lives.

Try to discern between “expectation” and “expectancy”. Expectancy helps us to be receptive and open to all sorts of possibilities – it has an air of excitement and anticipation about it. Whereas the “expectations trap” has a much more passive energy. We tend to wait for something to be delivered; often with a preconceived idea of exactly what form that delivery should take! And if it should fail to meet our “expectations” in any way, we are likely to feel very annoyed and disappointed.

When you give, do so without any expectation of something in return. Aim to give unconditionally and accept whatever gifts life brings you with graciousness and gratitude; even if it is unexpected. With this openness you may find some wonderful and unexpected gifts coming your way.

What motivates our expectations? When we expect great things from ourselves or our children; is it because we are truly striving for excellence? Or is it because we want to show the world what we have achieved; in other words, is pride fuelling these expectations?

If a long anticipated ‘special event’ does not go to plan, it is natural to feel disappointment. But if we can learn to let go of our attachment to perfection and control, we will end up feeling a lot happier. It is so much more helpful to accept that life rarely turns out exactly as we wish or expect. With a more philosophical approach we will feel more content and relaxed.

There are various strategies to help us overcome the expectations mind trap, including acceptance [accepting what we simply cannot control or change – as well as accepting our “humanness”] – authenticity [honouring our true nature] – mindfulness [which leads to greater self-awareness] – compassion [kindness towards ourselves and others, so we become more understanding about our frailties and limitations. And humour – sometimes things just do not turn out as expected; and sometimes the only thing we can do about that is laugh!

Having unrealistic and demanding expectations is likely to set you up for disappointment, frustration and resentment. But being open, receptive and in a state of expectancy will help you to receive all that is good in life.

So choose today to live in the real world, accept reality with all its uncertainties and imperfections; then your life will become so much easier and more joyful.

Let go of the fantasies and start relishing the much more exciting ‘real life’ adventures which can unfold as you follow your sacred path through this life.


“Expectations” is one of the Life challenge cards from the Life Guidance & Inspiration app – you can find this free mobile app on Google play and the Apple App store.

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For many years I have been part of a group of Lightworkers who “meet” etherically [by this I mean we link up distantly – we are not actually physically sitting together] to meditate. We connect around the times of the Full and New Moon every month. Our meditations are ‘synchronised’ or ’linked’ – so we come together, united in our wish to generate thoughts of peace, love and light.

I am part of just one small group but we know that there are many thousands of people from all walks of life across the globe meditating at these key times. And I never ceased to be amazed by the power of these linked meditations. Although I am sitting in my usual sacred space at home – all alone – at times it feels as if I am in a huge temple of light joined by a great number of other fellow Lightworkers. It is an extraordinarily powerful and uplifting experience. And I would love you to join us if it feels right for you.

Simply aim to meditate for about 20 – 30 minutes at any time during the 12 hours preceding or following the time of the new or full moon [dates & times are given below]. You do not have to join in at the exact time.

Doing this will create a 24 hour “window of meditation” in which many people will be meditating.

For these linked meditations, I often visualise being seated in a sacred space in a great circle of light with a group of fellow light workers, united in a wish to serve higher purpose for the greater good of all sentient beings. There is often a source of celestial light in the centre of the group. This space could be a temple-like building or a sacred place in nature – there are no rules – please work in whatever way is right for you and how you feel guided. The intention is always the most important factor. My intention and heartfelt wish will include a commitment to serve the light to the best of my ability and unite in the name of love for all that is good and true.

The recent sad world events can surely only deepen our commitment to bring more light, love, understanding and compassion into this world. This quote by Martin Luther King Jnr. reminds us of the importance of generating thoughts of light and love, even in difficult times.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

The dates and times of the upcoming meditations for 2015 are given below: All times are given using the 24 hour clock and are in GMT [so please remember to add an hour for British Summertime after 29th March to 25th October]. Ideally aim to meditate at some point 12 hours prior to or after the time of the full or new moon. If you wish to meditate more than once, please do.

3rd February : Full Moon in Leo 23.10
18th February : New Moon in Aquarius 23.48
5th March: Full Moon in Virgo 18.07
20th March: New Moon [and eclipse] in Pisces 9.37 – Equinox
4th April: Full Moon [and eclipse]in Libra
18th April: New Moon in Aries 18.58
4th May: Full Moon in Scorpio 03.43
18th May: New Moon in Taurus 04.14
2nd June: Full Moon in Sagittarius 16.20
16th June: New Moon in Gemini 14.06
2nd July: Full Moon in Capricorn 02.21
16th July: New Moon in Cancer 01.26
31 July: Full Moon in Aquarius 10.44
14th August: New Moon in Leo 14.55
29th August: Full Moon in Pisces 18.36
13th September : New Moon [and eclipse] in Virgo 06.43
28th September: Full Moon in Aries 02.52
13th October: New Moon in Libra 00.07
27th October: Full Moon in Taurus 12.06
11 November: New Moon in Scorpio 12.25
25 November: Full Moon in Gemini 22.45
11th December: New Moon in Sagittarius 10.30
25th December [Christmas Day]: Full Moon in Cancer 11.12

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HUMOUR a powerful [but often underrated] spiritual tool


Humour is a valuable and much under-estimated tool to help overcome negativity and dissolve obstacles.


When we allow ourselves to see the humour within a difficult situation it ceases to have such a powerful hold over us.  Humour helps us cope better with challenging situations.  Also, when we ‘lighten up’ and see the funny side of a problem, we get a new perspective.


Humour does not mean we are not taking life seriously.  And it does not mean being disrespectful.  Also it most certainly does not mean laughing at others or ridiculing them in any way.


Sometimes we just need to decide lighten up and not take life [or ourselves] quite so seriously; to retrieve our sense of humour and see the funny side of things.


Laughter really can be the best medicine sometimes. We often forget the feel good factor that comes when we laugh. Remember a jolly good belly laugh causes you to release feel-good endorphins which can be both healing and stress relieving.  Sometimes a good laugh is as helpful as a good cry. And much more enjoyable!


Remember to make time to try to take part in activities which you find enjoyable and fun. Whether it is seeing a funny film or going out with a group of friends who make you laugh.


Humour is a grossly underrated spiritual tool. Laughter literally transmutes negativity and dissolves obstacles. It is a far more powerful strategy than most people realise.  It is an excellent way of releasing fear and tension. Laughter is also an excellent way of releasing old patterns, and dissolving blocks.   Some people feel better when they have had a very good cry; and it is true that is an effective technique. But actually to go out and have a really good giggle can be just as powerful and effective.  And it is a lot more fun!


Many spiritual Masters and Teachers are very jolly and full of mirth, particularly the Buddhist teachers. There is very little they seem to take seriously. These humorous happy people are great role models.


Interestingly, when we lighten our mood with good humour, we unconsciously cleanse the atmosphere around us.   We raise the vibration.


Whether it is in work situations, personal relationships or family life; if you are happy and joyful you will naturally create a positive vibration around you.  Others will find you more attractive and be more well-disposed towards you.  You will be amazed how this simple strategy can transform your life!





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